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Program 2 of 10 · How Attraction Works

Half the advice you have read is wrong. You can feel it.

'You're too nice.' 'You're too intense.' Two different women, two opposite verdicts, the same you.

Understand what actually draws people in, and stop performing a version of yourself that nobody asked for.

Start tonight, from $37Is this me?
  • 4 modules
  • 9 lessons
  • 8 exercises
  • 10 curated resources
  • 30-day guarantee

Is this you?

You will recognise at least one of these.

You suspect half the advice you have read online is wrong but cannot tell which half
You want to understand why some men you know do well without looking like models
You have been told you are 'too nice' or 'too intense' and want to know what that means
You want to attract a partner, not just dates

On the other side

What changes when you do the work

Most dating advice for men is guesswork dressed up as science. This program walks through what the research on mate preferences, attachment and attraction really says, then turns it into behaviour: the traits worth building, the signals worth sending, and the myths worth dropping.

After the program

A clear, evidence-based picture of what women prioritise for short- and long-term partners

After the program

Your attachment style and how it shapes who you attract and how you behave

After the program

The difference between kindness and people-pleasing, and why one attracts and the other repels

After the program

How humour, status, warmth and competence are actually read

After the program

A personal development plan based on the traits with the highest return

The path

4 modules, in the order that works

  1. 1What the research says women want

    Cross-cultural studies consistently rank kindness, intelligence, emotional stability and dependability at the top. Looks and resources matter, but less than men assume.

    Kindness is the top-rated trait, and it is not weaknessShort-term versus long-term preferences
  2. 2Attachment: your operating system

    Attachment style, from Levine and Heller's Attached, predicts how you handle closeness, distance and conflict, and who you are drawn to.

    Secure, anxious, avoidantActing secure
  3. 3Signals: warmth, competence and status

    People judge others on two axes within seconds: warmth (can I trust you?) and competence (can you get things done?). Attraction needs both.

    Warmth firstCompetence and status without braggingHumour as intelligence
  4. 4Myths to drop

    The popular 'red pill' narrative gets the research backwards and makes men worse at dating.

    Looks, money and heightPlaying hard to get and being 'alpha'

The learning library

The best of what exists, already sorted

10 hand-picked videos, books, articles, research papers and tools, each with a note on what to take from it. The links are in the workbook.

bookAttached: The New Science of Adult AttachmentAmir Levine and Rachel Heller (book)
toolAttachment style questionnaire (from Attached)psytests.org archive
researchWomen rate kindness the most attractive trait (2024 study)The Healthy
articleWhat do women want in a man? What social scientists sayTiege Hanley analysis
articleMasculine habits women find attractive (research roundup)ScienceBlog
talkCues: the hidden signals of attraction and connectionVanessa Van Edwards, podcast interview
articleHow men and women flirt with body languagePsychology Today
talkHow to fall in love, according to Hinge's relationship scientistNPR interview with Logan Ury
videoDavid Buss on mate preferencesYouTube search
videoCharisma on Command: why people are attracted to these traitsYouTube

Exercises and scripts

Things you will actually do this week

8 step-by-step exercises with time estimates. Full instructions are in the workbook; the tag shows the tier where each one unlocks.

Attachment quiz and reflection · 25 minStarter and up
Kindness source check · 15 minStarter and up
Warmth practice · 10 minStarter and up
Myth inventory · 20 minStarter and up
Secure-behaviour drill · 30 minComplete and up
Competence story bank · 30 minComplete and up
Humour lab · 20 minComplete and up
Partner profile · 30 minUltra

3 scripts in the Complete and Ultra workbooks, plus all 33 across every program in the Scripts and Templates Pack.

Proof, not vibes

The eight things you will measure

Score each 1–5 before you start, at day 15 and at the end. The workbook has the scoring sheet. You will see the number move.

Understanding of what attracts1: Based on forums and guesses5: Based on research I can cite
Kindness from strength1: I am nice to be liked5: I am generous without needing a return
Secure behaviour1: I chase or withdraw5: I state needs and tolerate uncertainty
Warmth signals1: Closed, cold, serious5: Open, smiling, engaged
Competence without bragging1: I talk about achievements5: They show through stories and action
Humour1: Rehearsed or absent5: Playful, observational, self-aware
Partner selection1: Attracted to chaos and push-pull5: Attracted to consistency and calm
Myth-free thinking1: Looks and money decide everything5: I invest where it compounds

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How far do you want to take it?

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Starter

Learn the fundamentals and get moving in 7 days

$37 one-time

  • Core workbook (PDF): lessons, key ideas, mistakes to avoid
  • Curated learning library with links to videos, books and research
  • 7-day action plan
  • Before / during / after self-assessment matrix
  • Starter exercises
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Complete

The full 30-day program with every exercise and script

$147$97 one-time

  • Everything in Starter
  • Full 30-day program, week by week
  • All exercises, including the advanced ones
  • Scripts, templates and message frameworks
  • Weekly review template and progress tracker
  • 30 days of email Q&A with your coach

Ultra

Complete plus personal coaching and a 90-day path

$497$297 one-time

  • Everything in Complete
  • 90-day mastery path with monthly milestones
  • One private 60-minute coaching call
  • Personal written review of your situation, profile or messages
  • Six fortnightly accountability check-ins by email
  • Lifetime updates to the workbook

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